What do you want to be when you grow up?

Graduation

Schelli Whitehouse, Amy, Lisa Murrell

It’s official – I’m a certified Equine Alchemy Life Coach.   The picture includes my instructors, Schelli Whitehouse and Lisa Murrell.  Twenty years after I graduated from college, I’m graduating from the thing I really want to be when I grow up!

What a training program! I wonder if I would have wanted to be a life coach, if at age 18, someone would have told me I needed to complete the following in the next 24 years:

  1. Complete college (major in Biology, Chemistry, Secondary Ed)
  2. Get married
  3. Teach for 1 ½ years
  4. Change gears completely and work for Andersen Consulting
  5. Start your own IT Consulting Business
  6. Buy and sell 6 homes
  7. Remodel or build 3 homes
  8. Have a couple kids
  9. Stay at home with said kids for 10 years
  10. Maintain your IT Consulting Business & work part-time
  11. Stay married and connected with your husband
  12. Build a connection with your kids
  13. Stay sane enough to come out the other side
  14. Stay present enough to hear your true calling
  15. Be brave enough to go for your true calling
  16. Complete 18 months of outright vulnerable self-work
  17. Decide what to do next

Graduation seems to signify the end but for me it has always felt like the beginning. This graduation is definitely a new start for me.

I would like to share my biggest take-away from the last 18 months: Everything you say to me is really about you, to some degree.

At the least, your ‘lens’ or perspective on life shapes what you say. How you see the world determines how you see me. We cannot help this and we usually don’t even know we are doing it. It does not mean we intend good or bad, its just reality.

At the most, what you say to me is completely about you and not at all about me. Many times, you think I should do what you would do or that I must see things the way you see things. What you say may very well be just what I want to do but it also may not.

Every one of us is impacted by what others say to us (verbally and non-verbally).

What someone says to you could cover the range of only slightly about them to completely about them. Why is this important? It was extremely important to me because I found myself feeling quite powerless due to other people’s words. My gut knew what they had to say wasn’t true for me but it still chipped away at a part of my confidence. Of course there were people in my life who could set aside most of their ‘stuff’ to consider my story, but even people who love me struggle with this. As a matter of fact, people who are close to you often have the hardest time setting their own desires, concerns and expectations aside to offer authentic words.

Once I realized this, I could see what other people had to say (as well as what I was saying) in a different light. I can take what rings true for me and let the rest go, even if I don’t understand their perspective. This is possible because I am aware of and attentive to feelings. I know my feelings and can usually sense those of others.  I trust my heart when I “just know.” I knew before but I didn’t always trust myself. After 18 months, I trust myself a lot more.

After 42 years, I’m ready.  Ready for the next 20 years of training and excited for who I’ll be at 60.  Grateful for each and every day in between.

Love & Grace,

Amy

If you’d like to know more, send me a message at amy@amyjcoaching.com or visit my website and schedule some time with me at www.amyjcoaching.com

What’s Your Story?

Girls and I

Did you know that you are living in your own story? A story is a set of circumstances that we believe to be true and it affects how we live our day-to-day life.

There are three main stories that we live in:

  1. Victim Story
  2. Over-Comer Story
  3. Great Story

The Victim Story tells us that something happened to us and that’s why things are the way they are. We might be stuck and feel like we can’t change things. We feel powerless because “that is just how work, government or life is” or “that’s just how I was brought up.”

The Victim Story is important because it holds the key to our passion. We can take that information, learn from it and fuel our Great Story. But sometimes we get stuck in our Victim Story and use it as an excuse for the way our life is turning out.

The Over-Comer Story is filled with excitement and enthusiasm. The success associated with overcoming is great as long we aren’t trying to “prove” our self or “make” something happen.

The Over-Comer Story is important because through it, we can discover genuine triumph. This triumph is key to transformation within our Great Story.

Your Great Story comes alive when you recognize and receive the gifts of your Victim and Over-Comer Stories. Great Stories fulfill your soul’s dream for you – God’s purpose for your life. A Great Story incorporates your gifts and talents.

We all encounter our Victim and Over-Comer Stories on a regular basis. It’s what we do with them that matter. Do you know what to do with them? That’s where a great coach can help. Whether you’re living your Great Story and want to learn from a few hiccups you’ve been having. Or you want to live your Great Story but don’t know how to get there.

I’m living my Great Story as a Conduit for Connection. I facilitate or guide connection, which leads to awareness. Sometimes I help reconnect you back to yourself. That may sound a little weird but many of us are not in tune with ourselves. When you are connected to yourself, you hear the subtle (and not so subtle) messages your body has for you. As you connect to yourself, connections with God, spouse, family or passions will begin to unfold with greater clarity. The awareness you gain allows you to confidently make decisions and move forward in your life. All of this plays a part in your Great Story.

If you’d like to explore your Story further, send me a message at amy@amyjcoaching.com or visit my website and schedule some time with me at www.amyjcoaching.com

Great Story Coaching – Lucid Living

Thank you Jesus for School!

Cinnamon Roll

She did it. My youngest got out of the car of her own accord when I dropped her off for the first day of school today. Thank. You. Jesus (period dot).

I have a kiddo who suffers from anxiety and God has been good to us today. The last time I dropped her off for her first day of school, I had to physically hand her over to the principal. As in, remove her from me and allow another adult to provide a safe place for her. Did I mention that she’s 11 years old? We’ve made some pretty major steps since our last “first day”.

We moved here 8 months ago so my daughter started school in the middle of the year. Transitions are extremely difficult to begin with so leaving home, friends and family was the ultimate transition in her life thus far. For the first three days of school, I had to deliver her to the principal’s office and allow someone else to “hold” her while I left. It was heart-breaking as well as exhausting, frustrating and confusing.

It is so hard to see God’s plan for us in the exhausting, frustrating and confusing when our heart is broken. Everything just seems wrong. That’s where faith kicks in. I fully trust that God has a good plan for my daughter and me. And today I caught a glimpse of that plan.

She loves her school and she feels safe there. That context or foundation changes everything for her. I am so thankful for the teachers, staff and parents who pour into our school and kids.

That context allows me to eat cinnamon rolls and party like it’s 1999 because I can!

Love & Grace,

Amy