Schelli Whitehouse, Amy, Lisa Murrell
It’s official – I’m a certified Equine Alchemy Life Coach. The picture includes my instructors, Schelli Whitehouse and Lisa Murrell. Twenty years after I graduated from college, I’m graduating from the thing I really want to be when I grow up!
What a training program! I wonder if I would have wanted to be a life coach, if at age 18, someone would have told me I needed to complete the following in the next 24 years:
- Complete college (major in Biology, Chemistry, Secondary Ed)
- Get married
- Teach for 1 ½ years
- Change gears completely and work for Andersen Consulting
- Start your own IT Consulting Business
- Buy and sell 6 homes
- Remodel or build 3 homes
- Have a couple kids
- Stay at home with said kids for 10 years
- Maintain your IT Consulting Business & work part-time
- Stay married and connected with your husband
- Build a connection with your kids
- Stay sane enough to come out the other side
- Stay present enough to hear your true calling
- Be brave enough to go for your true calling
- Complete 18 months of outright vulnerable self-work
- Decide what to do next
Graduation seems to signify the end but for me it has always felt like the beginning. This graduation is definitely a new start for me.
I would like to share my biggest take-away from the last 18 months: Everything you say to me is really about you, to some degree.
At the least, your ‘lens’ or perspective on life shapes what you say. How you see the world determines how you see me. We cannot help this and we usually don’t even know we are doing it. It does not mean we intend good or bad, its just reality.
At the most, what you say to me is completely about you and not at all about me. Many times, you think I should do what you would do or that I must see things the way you see things. What you say may very well be just what I want to do but it also may not.
Every one of us is impacted by what others say to us (verbally and non-verbally).
What someone says to you could cover the range of only slightly about them to completely about them. Why is this important? It was extremely important to me because I found myself feeling quite powerless due to other people’s words. My gut knew what they had to say wasn’t true for me but it still chipped away at a part of my confidence. Of course there were people in my life who could set aside most of their ‘stuff’ to consider my story, but even people who love me struggle with this. As a matter of fact, people who are close to you often have the hardest time setting their own desires, concerns and expectations aside to offer authentic words.
Once I realized this, I could see what other people had to say (as well as what I was saying) in a different light. I can take what rings true for me and let the rest go, even if I don’t understand their perspective. This is possible because I am aware of and attentive to feelings. I know my feelings and can usually sense those of others. I trust my heart when I “just know.” I knew before but I didn’t always trust myself. After 18 months, I trust myself a lot more.
After 42 years, I’m ready. Ready for the next 20 years of training and excited for who I’ll be at 60. Grateful for each and every day in between.
Love & Grace,
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